I guess when you end up 'single' and dating for the first time in… well… a long long time, you start to reflect on where everyone else in the world is in the dating game.
Since I've never really been the type to think towards marriage, babies, love, happily ever after, etc. I may have a bit of an outside scope. However, it also puts me at a disadvantage.
I've noticed a huge difference between guys and girls, and when people start getting older. I love the idea of dating - and I think I'm talking more about 'dating' versus potential gf/bf. I don't love the idea of meeting the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, at this time in my life. this could have to do with my explicit need for more than what i've found... as I have spoken about before...
but I feel like there are too many people I have not met, and to be honest, I'm a commitment-phobe. However, I notice that the older I get (and the people around me) - and girls before guys generally speaking (of course I tend to be an exception to most rules involving girls and relationships) - more people want to meet 'the one', and stop 'dating'. I'm wondering if this is going to leave me high and dry…
It's interesting how much you learn from your first few experiences in dating. As I have touched on before, I'm an extremely honest and blunt person. And it seems as though dating is about games, and it seems as though there's an inability to address things head on - I have to admit that if I stop wanting to date a guy, I just become extremely 'busy', and don't return his calls. However, people have become so casual about dating (which can be a good thing), but then forget that there are manners and etiquette that still exists. be polite. be honest. be kind. be trustworthy. these are the things that build not only a relationship, but a general good character.
it worries me to be "that girl" - and not just because I hate the term 'ball-and-chain'. mostly because i think if you're with 'the one', you should never feel like they (or you) are a burden. You should enjoy spending time with them, and if spending time with friends is important, then the person who you end up with should think it's important too.
As a wise wise friend once typed to me…
"i guess these 'R' chats are necessary to know if you're on the same page... and at the end of the day, 'R's can be a petrifying thing (rabbit in the headlights) just because of what couuuld happen down the road. Live for the moment and the everyday (which you do so well anyyyway) and if he's the one going at a different pace - his problemo. Don't feel like you have the problem though, your wonderful, and you need someone who is perfectly right for YOU! It's hard for our generation to settle for one thing, we are passionate, driven and mildy erratic.. the world is changing, go with your heart and he will too.. it's the only constant."
Since I've never really been the type to think towards marriage, babies, love, happily ever after, etc. I may have a bit of an outside scope. However, it also puts me at a disadvantage.
I've noticed a huge difference between guys and girls, and when people start getting older. I love the idea of dating - and I think I'm talking more about 'dating' versus potential gf/bf. I don't love the idea of meeting the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, at this time in my life. this could have to do with my explicit need for more than what i've found... as I have spoken about before...
but I feel like there are too many people I have not met, and to be honest, I'm a commitment-phobe. However, I notice that the older I get (and the people around me) - and girls before guys generally speaking (of course I tend to be an exception to most rules involving girls and relationships) - more people want to meet 'the one', and stop 'dating'. I'm wondering if this is going to leave me high and dry…
It's interesting how much you learn from your first few experiences in dating. As I have touched on before, I'm an extremely honest and blunt person. And it seems as though dating is about games, and it seems as though there's an inability to address things head on - I have to admit that if I stop wanting to date a guy, I just become extremely 'busy', and don't return his calls. However, people have become so casual about dating (which can be a good thing), but then forget that there are manners and etiquette that still exists. be polite. be honest. be kind. be trustworthy. these are the things that build not only a relationship, but a general good character.
it worries me to be "that girl" - and not just because I hate the term 'ball-and-chain'. mostly because i think if you're with 'the one', you should never feel like they (or you) are a burden. You should enjoy spending time with them, and if spending time with friends is important, then the person who you end up with should think it's important too.
As a wise wise friend once typed to me…
"i guess these 'R' chats are necessary to know if you're on the same page... and at the end of the day, 'R's can be a petrifying thing (rabbit in the headlights) just because of what couuuld happen down the road. Live for the moment and the everyday (which you do so well anyyyway) and if he's the one going at a different pace - his problemo. Don't feel like you have the problem though, your wonderful, and you need someone who is perfectly right for YOU! It's hard for our generation to settle for one thing, we are passionate, driven and mildy erratic.. the world is changing, go with your heart and he will too.. it's the only constant."