i never really understood the whole 'game' playing component of relationships - both romantic and platonic.
with romantic relationships - the three day rule, not saying what you think vs. saying what you don't actually feel.
with platonic relationships - the 'i want you to be honest with me', and the 'i'd rather hear it from you, then anyone else' games.
all things aside, i've learned that honesty is not the best policy. it should be, because it's the most logical, stand up, or honourable thing to do - but apparently it's not, because people don't want to hear it.
in relationships, people love the game playing - they love the chase, the dissection of every conversation, the unknown.
in friendships, or work relationships, people love the game playing - they love the gossip, the drama, and being the centre of attention when something is wrong but they don't want to share.
i've experienced more than my fair share of conversations with coworkers - those that involved both of the classic platonic relationship phrases ('i want you to be honest with me', and the 'i'd rather hear it from you, then anyone else'), and i can honestly say that 3 times out of 4, those people are full of hot air. full of bologna. or whatever other PG 13 phrase you want me to use - whatever it is, they're full of it.
though i've never read 'he's just not that into you', so i can't speak entirely to it's content, i have seen the sex and the city episode:
"The book was inspired by an episode of Sex and the City titled "Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little," in which Miranda Hobbes asks Carrie Bradshaw's boyfriend, Jack Berger, to analyze the post-date behavior of a potential love interest. Because the man declined Miranda's invitation to come up to her apartment after the date, stating that he has an early meeting, Berger concludes, 'He's just not that into you', adding, 'When a guy's really into you, he's coming upstairs, meeting or no meeting.'"
sources say that this means people assume that i (as a human being - not personally) play games.
i won't do it anymore. i refuse to game play. and i refuse to continue to explain.
here it is for the world to see - read me like an open book. because that's about all that's going on.
1. i say what i mean.
2. i mean what i say.
3. i don't like people who don't follow the first two rules.
life would be a lot easier if we didn't need to translate people's intentions.