Why do we all feel the need to "stay friends".
I met up with an ex boyfriend last night for the first time, in a long time… and the dynamic is an interesting one. Sharing years of joint history, friends, lives, and then parting ways to meet up 6 months later and having nothing to talk about.
Friendships have persmission to fade, and we know a good friend who we can contact after months of seperation, and have a million and fourteen things to talk about. Why do we force these relationships with the people who we have no interest in? They are usually the awkward conversations I avoid at the grocery store when I return home:
"How is your family? How is work? What are you doing now? Where are you living?" - I have even run away from people to avoid this. I have also been known to respond to a cordial "we should get drinks sometime" with, "no, we shouldn't, and we probably won't ever"…
In my vow to discontinue my wasting time on people who don't invest time in our relationship, I commit to avoiding ex's as well. No more awkward questions, or avoiding talking about new relationships without trying not to hurt the person's feelings.
Instead - I'll make necklaces with this new found time!!