so. following my post on 'dating rules for boys - part 1' i received a TON of comments from male friends who felt that they had a lot to say about dating women as well.... and i was excited to hear. so. i asked a dear friend of mine, tyler, to compile what would be a top 10 list of rules for women. since we're both single, we talk until we're blue in the face about the people we date, and i can attest that he HAS in fact dated some of these weirdos.
so, without further adieu ladies... your top ten rules, straight from the mouth (or keyboard) of tyler.
1. Commit to the time/date: When I call to ask you out, if you can't commit to the time on the phone, make sure you get back to me in a reasonable amount of time. Too often girls, will wait until the day of to say they are or aren’t available.
2. Be Honest: If you aren’t interested or simply aren’t excited to go on the date, don’t accept the invitation. Be open and up front and just say you aren’t interested anymore. Chances are I will survive. I don’t know if it’s the city I live in or the girls I seem to be attracted to, but they love heads games and these will get you nowhere. Eventually, I’ll move on and you’ll be left wanting more.
2. Be Honest: If you aren’t interested or simply aren’t excited to go on the date, don’t accept the invitation. Be open and up front and just say you aren’t interested anymore. Chances are I will survive. I don’t know if it’s the city I live in or the girls I seem to be attracted to, but they love heads games and these will get you nowhere. Eventually, I’ll move on and you’ll be left wanting more.
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3. If we’re on the 1st or 2nd date, don’t bring up past relationships or your ex-boyfriend: Red flag city. I can’t emphasize this anymore than that. If you bring up past relationships, relationship fears, ex-boyfriend issues, there’s a very strong chance you wont get another phone call from me. If I determine that you have more issues than Fantasy Football team, I’ll be done. It’s tough enough managing my fantasy football team, let alone your fears and expectations.
4. If you offer to pay, actually mean it.: A girl I used to date would offer to pay but would then hold it against me when I allowed her to pay. If I invite you out on the date, I’ll pay. However if we make mutual plans and you offer to pay, don’t get upset when I let you pay. There’s something about a woman that is confident in her ability to contribute and guys pick up on that. It’s one of the first things I’ll tell my buddies when I debrief on the night out. If you do it with confidence and its genuine, it goes a long, long way.
5. When we’re out, have an opinion: A girl I dated used to always say “whatever you want.” Although it sounds great to always have what you want, that phrase sends chills down my spine. For example, if we’re out for dinner and I ask you what kind of wine you want, tell me what you want. If Red Wine gives you migraines and you prefer white, say so. A girl that will stand up for herself and speak her opinion is incredibly sexy.
6. Thanks for stopping by, San Diego: Maintain some intrigue. Don’t talk about how you want me to meet your friends\parents\grandparents right away. Don’t tell me how much you want me to go on an all-inclusive vacation in 3 months. Let’s walk before we run. The more you try to show me that you see me in your future, the more I’m not going to want to be in it. Now, the more you get to know someone, the less truth this holds. But if you’ve only known one another for 2 months, stay classy. I like you. I’m not going anywhere. However, if you continuously talk about how you want me to go to Hawaii with you in April and we just met in September, you’ll lose me pretty fast. A while ago, I met a girl in August and we had dated for 3 weeks when she had made plans for me fly to Hawaii at Christmas with her. I looked like Usain Bolt running from that girl.
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7. But Mostly, Stay Classy San Diego: When we’re out on our 1st or 2nd date, don’t tell me about that one time when you went to the club, blacked out, and ended up in some random guys bed. Sure, you might sound like a fun time, but if I’m on a date with you, I want more than just random sex. You’re tales of disastrous nights where you are out until 6 am only serve as a warning. You’re thinking I’m going to love that you’re so much fun. I’m thinking you’re a liability. K, Thanks, Bye.
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8. Let me lead the way at the end of the night: If the date went well, chances are I’m going to at least kiss you on the cheek when we say our goodbyes. So when I do, let me take the lead. The first kiss is always awkward but it sets the tone for things to come. I’ve had dates where it’s been an amazing date but any time we went to kiss, it was awkward and it set the tone for our physical interactions going forward and ultimately led to us not seeing one another again.
9. Show me the money. Well, show me you like me. I just wanted to use a Tom Cruise line as a Title line (name the movie.): There`s not much better when you really enjoyed your date and you receive a simple text from her the next morning saying how she also really enjoyed her night. Show your appreciation for the effort we put in and you`ll continue to see more and more from me.
10. If our dating turns into something more, be confident in yourself: If we start getting more serious, don’t let your insecurities towards relationships/men come to the surface so quickly. The moment you start saying “don’t leave me,” is the moment I’ll start to mentally and physically check out of the relationship. A man wants a woman that will challenge him not put him on a pedestal. Be confident that if we didn’t like you or like spending time with you, that we wouldn’t be with you.
10. If our dating turns into something more, be confident in yourself: If we start getting more serious, don’t let your insecurities towards relationships/men come to the surface so quickly. The moment you start saying “don’t leave me,” is the moment I’ll start to mentally and physically check out of the relationship. A man wants a woman that will challenge him not put him on a pedestal. Be confident that if we didn’t like you or like spending time with you, that we wouldn’t be with you.
there you have it friends.... agree? disagree? have some more tips? for men, OR women? share. please. we're all at a loss.